Day 13 - Love is Not a Drug

Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment... dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.
-bell hooks


If you ever wondered who my role model is, well I have so many! But feminist, social activist, educator, and writer, bell hooks, is definately in the top five. 


She was raised in the Midwest, where she attended racially segregated schools. In her writing, she talks about the adversity she faced when transitioning to integrated schools. Upon her graduation from high school, she went on to earn her bachelors, masters, and doctorate, in which she completed her dissertation on black novelist, Toni Morrison. 

hooks' birth name was Gloria Jean Watkins but she changed her pen name to bell hooks to pay homage to her grandmother. She keeps it in lower case letters to distinguish herself from her grandmother. 

She is widely known for her feminist books such as: Ain't I a Woman and Feminist Theory. She has also taught African American studies and English at Yale and City College of NYC.

I hope to leave a legacy like Dr. hooks. Her work is an inspiration to men, women, and people of all ethnicities.

Before going to bed, take a moment to meditate on the quote at the beginning of this post. Deep isn't it? I'll leave you to grapple with it on your own. 



  1. Needed that quote more than anything. thank you for sharing xox

  2. You will most definitely leave a lasting legacy.


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