3 Steps to Being Intentional about Your Relationships
Being an introvert, with a free spirit, and mood swings that depict most of my desired actions (e.g.: not wanting to go anywhere with anyone) has made my ability to be a good sister, friend, and daughter more challenging than ever. Honestly, I really suck at checking in on people and spending time with them. But I'm going to get better. Gotta love them while I still have the chance to.
Today, I took 3 steps to ensure I do such:
1. List and Sort
I spent a little time sorting the people (the names are under the stickies) I extend myself to.
-Family I that I can Always Depend on for Love
- Friends that I Consider Family
- Friends that I Hang with and/or Just Love ...and can depend on...
These 3 lists made the most sense to me. Sure, I know a lot of people but do I depend on all of those people? Have those people been there for me when I needed them? Who deserves more of my love and attention? Who doesn't really need more than an Instagram comment here and there? These were really the questions I asked myself as I made my lists.
2. Goal Setting
Then, I made some very simple, attainable goals. These goals are things that most of the people on my list do naturally with me but again, I suck at this type of stuff - so I have to practice it until I get better. Nothing wrong with that.
3. Action Plan
What the stickies don't show is my plan of action. How will I make sure I reach my goals? Here's the plan:
A. I've added "check-in" text/phone call times to my calendar. I've literally given myself an hour twice a week to do nothing but sit and text or call the people I love.
B. Im going to set one day a week for face-time. Not apple face-time, I mean, a dinner date or just going over someone's house to talk and laugh. Would you believe me when I tell you, I can't even remember the last time I've visited a friend just to see how they're doing?
C. Since writing love notes is something that I love to do. I'm going to mail a few to my favorite people once a week. Only 2 notes a week but this should be fun and cute and most of all, let the people I love know that I love them.
As we get older, the smaller our circles become, and the less time we have for bull____. This is all the more of a reason why we have to show love and appreciation to the people that are closest to us. They deserve it.